Gentle tools for the road ahead
These faith-aware resources are here for the moments when you need a little more language, grounding, or encouragement. Take what supports you and return whenever you need it.
Relationship recovery is not a straight line. You may be sorting through grief, fear, hope, boundaries, or a decision that feels too big to make alone. Small, honest steps can help you reconnect with what is true and what you need.Trudy Johnson, PhD., LMFT, ACCTS understands because she was faced with the decision of how to stop the toxicity she lived in for over 20 years. Dr. Trudy gives you guidance and a plan to follow to get yourself unstuck.
You are living like you have your foot on the gas (wanting to leave) your toxic marriage and your other foot on the brake as it's too overwhelming to figure out how to leave. This "stay-leave" mindset has you paralyzed. This paralyzation is not only in your mind but even in your body. Living in the "stay-leave" mind-set won't help you experience what you dream for your relationship.
Choose one safe person, professional, or community resource you can contact. You do not have to carry every question by yourself. Know your safe people. Not even every Christian counselor or helper understands what you're living in.
When decisions feel urgent, pause and ask what safety, honesty, peace, and dignity look like for you today. "Trying to Decide" is like having your own personal therapist sitting beside you to guide you with resource suggestions and even a way to devise a plan of personal work and exercises to help you understand what you need to do and when.
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A personal guide to ending the stay-leave mindset in a toxic marriage
Written by Dr. Trudy Johnson, PhD., LMFT, ACCTS — this book is like having your own personal therapist sitting beside you. It offers resource suggestions, a plan of personal work, and exercises to help you understand what you need to do and when.
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